{"id":162,"date":"2022-12-16T10:28:29","date_gmt":"2022-12-16T08:28:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/?p=162"},"modified":"2023-09-06T17:24:20","modified_gmt":"2023-09-06T15:24:20","slug":"dictionarul-emitiilor-comparatia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/2022\/12\/16\/dictionarul-emitiilor-comparatia\/","title":{"rendered":"DIC\u021aIONARUL EMO\u021aIILOR. Compara\u021bia"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Emo\u021bii care apar ca o consecin\u021b\u0103 a compara\u021biei:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

invidia, gelozia, resentimentul, admira\u021bia, reveren\u021ba\/ireveren\u021ba<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 nu prea suntem con\u0219tien\u021bi \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu acest \u201daproape dezastru psihologic \u201d care este compara\u021bia. Am avea multe de \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat dac\u0103 am fi mai con\u0219tien\u021bi de c\u00e2te ori pe zi ne compar\u0103m cu al\u021bii, ne compar\u0103m copiii cu al\u021bi copii, casele \u00een care st\u0103m, salariile, eforturile etc, etc Ne compar\u0103m chiar \u0219i c\u00e2nd nu suntem con\u0219tien\u021bi de asta. Psihologii spun c\u0103 a compara nu este o alegere. Suntem seta\u021bi s\u0103 facem asta \u0219i o vom face mereu. Compar\u0103m. Singura alegere pe care o avem este s\u0103 fim con\u0219tien\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 decidem cum vom alege \u0219i cum ne va afecta alegerea f\u0103cut\u0103. Chiar \u0219i atunci c\u00e2nd suntem con\u0219tien\u021bi de ce iarba vecinului este mai verde ca a noastr\u0103, compara\u021bia tot ne macin\u0103.(Scott Sonnenschein \u2013 psiholog la Rice, zice :\u201eIarba chiar e mai verde la vecinul\u201d pentru c\u0103 e despre cum cre\u0219te firul de iarb\u0103 t\u0103iat. Arat\u0103 mai verde c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti la distan\u021b\u0103).  To\u021bi vrem s\u0103 ne integr\u0103m, dar…\u0219i s\u0103 ie\u0219im \u00een eviden\u021b\u0103 cumva. Nu \u00eemi pas\u0103 dac\u0103 copiii mei sunt mai buni dec\u00e2t copiii de v\u00e2rsta lor, \u00een general, ci dac\u0103 copilul meu e mai bun dec\u00e2t cel de l\u00e2ng\u0103 el.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum ne afecteaz\u0103 compara\u021bia?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Compara\u021bia este uciga\u0219ul bucuriei, spune Brene Brown. Dar depinde de ce fel de compara\u021bie facem. Exist\u0103 dou\u0103 tipuri de compara\u021bie:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Compara\u021bia ascendent\u0103 \u2013 a te compara cu cineva cu rezultate mai bune dec\u00e2t tine. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Compara\u021bia descendent\u0103 \u2013 a te compara cu cineva cu rezultate mai slabe  dec\u00e2t tine.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    La prima vedere s-ar p\u0103rea c\u0103 a te compara descendent te poate face mai fericit dec\u00e2t compara\u021bia ascendent\u0103. Dar cercet\u0103rile arat\u0103 c\u0103 \u201eDirec\u021bia compara\u021biei nu garanteaz\u0103 direc\u021bia rezultatului. Ambele tipuri de compara\u021bie pot avea at\u00e2t efecte negative c\u00e2t \u0219i efecte pozitive.\u201d(Alicia Nortje)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Ceea ce ne doare nu e c\u0103 ne uit\u0103m \u00een sus sau ne uit\u0103m \u00een jos, ci c\u0103 NU ne uit\u0103m la oameni \u0219i nici la noi \u00een\u0219ine!(B. Brown)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Compara\u021bia este una din cele mai periculoase experien\u021be c\u00e2nd vine vorba de stima de sine. \u0218i nu po\u021bi alege s\u0103 nu te compari, pentru c\u0103 suntem seta\u021bi s\u0103 ne compar\u0103m. Dar, s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 e\u0219ti setat s\u0103 faci compara\u021bii(mai ales acum, c\u00e2nd spa\u021biul virtual este nu doar foarte u\u0219or disponibil, ci \u0219i \u00eencurajeaz\u0103 asta!), s\u0103 con\u0219tientizezi c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti \u00eentr-o experien\u021b\u0103 de compara\u021bie \u0219i s\u0103 alegi ce faci cu compara\u021bia \u2013 asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 putere, sau competen\u021b\u0103 emo\u021bional\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    PS. Fii ca restul, dar mai bun! Asta-i compara\u021bia.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Emo\u021bii care apar ca o consecin\u021b\u0103 a compara\u021biei: invidia, gelozia, resentimentul, admira\u021bia, reveren\u021ba\/ireveren\u021ba Cred c\u0103 nu prea suntem con\u0219tien\u021bi \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu acest \u201daproape dezastru psihologic \u201d care este compara\u021bia. Am avea multe de \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat dac\u0103 am fi mai con\u0219tien\u021bi Read More …<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-162","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=162"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":207,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/162\/revisions\/207"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=162"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=162"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=162"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}