{"id":159,"date":"2022-12-16T07:54:18","date_gmt":"2022-12-16T05:54:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/?p=159"},"modified":"2022-12-16T07:54:19","modified_gmt":"2022-12-16T05:54:19","slug":"dictionarul-emotiilor-vulnerabilitatea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/2022\/12\/16\/dictionarul-emotiilor-vulnerabilitatea\/","title":{"rendered":"DIC\u021aIONARUL EMO\u021aIILOR. Vulnerabilitatea"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ce este vulnerabilitatea?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este emo\u021bia tr\u0103it\u0103 \u00een momente de incertitudine, de risc \u0219i expunere emo\u021bional\u0103. Nu exist\u0103 curaj f\u0103r\u0103 vulnerabilitate. S\u0103 te oferi pe tav\u0103, s\u0103 fii v\u0103zut, s\u0103-\u021bi deschizi sufletul \u00een fa\u021ba cuiva, fie c\u0103 prime\u0219ti, fie c\u0103 nu prime\u0219ti ceea ce ceri. Vulnerabilitatea nu este o emo\u021bie pozitiv\u0103 sau negativ\u0103. Vulnerabilitatea este ADN -ul emo\u021biilor. A fi prezent cu totul c\u00e2nd nu po\u021bi controla rezultatul. \u0218i c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti vulnerabil, vei fi v\u0103zut. Incertitudine, risc, expunere emo\u021bional\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd suntem vulnerabili?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suntem vulnerabili c\u00e2nd ne \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219\u0103m toate emo\u021biile, inclusiv pe cele care ne produc disconfort. Ne con\u0219tientiz\u0103m \u0219i accept\u0103m triste\u021bea, furia, frica. \u00cenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 tr\u0103im cu ele, s\u0103 le exprim\u0103m s\u0103n\u0103tos, s\u0103 vorbim deschis despre ele, \u00een loc s\u0103 fugim la nesf\u00e2r\u0219it de noi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suntem vulnerabili c\u00e2nd ne ar\u0103t\u0103m celorlal\u021bi a\u0219a cum suntem de fapt: adic\u0103 \u0219i cu temeri, \u0219i cu frici; \u0219i furio\u0219i, \u0219i bucuro\u0219i ca ni\u0219te copii. Vulnerabilitatea \u00eenseamn\u0103 autenticitate. \u00censeamn\u0103 s\u0103 fim\u2026 cu sufletul la vedere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suntem vulnerabili c\u00e2nd vorbim despre e\u0219ecurile tr\u0103ite, chiar dac\u0103 ne este team\u0103 de ce ar putea crede ceilal\u021bi despre noi. Ne asum\u0103m s\u0103 povestim \u0219i lucrurile dureroase din via\u021ba noastr\u0103. Ne asum\u0103m acest disconfort emo\u021bional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

De ce ne este team\u0103 de vulnerabilitate?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vulnerabilitatea este o parte fireasc\u0103 a fiec\u0103ruia dintre noi, dar de care fugim adesea. Ne ferim de emo\u021biile mai pu\u021bin confortabile \u2013 uneori nici nu ne d\u0103m voie sau nu ne d\u0103m r\u0103gazul necesar pentru a le sim\u021bi. Nu vrem ca alte persoane s\u0103 ne vad\u0103 a\u0219a cum suntem, pentru c\u0103 ne e fric\u0103 de faptul c\u0103 ne-ar judeca, respinge, abandona. Povestim cu inima deschis\u0103 despre succesele \u0219i bucuriile tr\u0103ite, iar c\u00e2nd vine vorba despre experien\u021bele inconfortabile, schimb\u0103m subiectul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fuga de propria vulnerabilitate sau negarea ei are, la baz\u0103, o prejudecat\u0103: vulnerabilitatea \u00eenseamn\u0103 sl\u0103biciune. Iar sl\u0103biciunea este, dup\u0103 cum \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat, nu de pu\u021bine ori  \u00eenc\u0103 din perioada copil\u0103riei, indezirabil\u0103, ru\u0219inoas\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 ni s-a repetat \u00een copil\u0103rie c\u0103 este ru\u0219inos s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngem, nu ne vom da voie nici \u00een via\u021ba de adul\u021bi s\u0103 ne manifest\u0103m triste\u021bea sau furia prin pl\u00e2ns. Purt\u0103m cu noi lec\u021bia pe care a \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat-o copilul interior. \u0218i o punem \u00een practic\u0103 ori de c\u00e2te ori avem ocazia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat de-a lungul vie\u021bii c\u0103 e mai bine s\u0103 nu vorbim cu ceilal\u021bi despre e\u0219ecuri, pierderi, despre lucrurile care ne dor, vom evita s\u0103 ne deschidem \u00een fa\u021ba oamenilor din jurul nostru \u0219i le vom prezenta, \u00een schimb, \u201edoar partea plin\u0103 a paharului\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Astfel, pentru a \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba s\u0103 accept\u0103m vulnerabilitatea ca parte fireasc\u0103 a vie\u021bii, ca parte absolut normal\u0103 dinl\u0103untrul nostru, este esen\u021bial s\u0103 \u00eencepem cu schimbarea ideii fundamentale, ad\u00e2nc \u00eenr\u0103d\u0103cinate, despre ea:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vulnerabilitatea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 sl\u0103biciune.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vulnerabilitatea \u00eenseamn\u0103 curaj.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vulnerabilitatea \u00eenseamn\u0103 autenticitate.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vulnerabilitatea nu este ru\u0219inoas\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este, \u00een esen\u021b\u0103, secretul unei vie\u021bi interioare armonioase, precum \u0219i al unor rela\u021bii interpersonale func\u021bionale, s\u0103n\u0103toase, autentice.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La ce ajut\u0103 acceptarea vulnerabilit\u0103\u021bii?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acceptarea \u0219i \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219area propriei vulnerabilit\u0103\u021bi ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 fim \u00een contact cu noi \u00een\u0219ine, cu nevoile noastre emo\u021bionale, cu limitele noastre. Odat\u0103 ce ne con\u0219tientiz\u0103m \u0219i ne accept\u0103m vulnerabilitatea, devenim mai aten\u021bi la emo\u021biile noastre. \u00cenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 le integr\u0103m \u0219i pe cele care ne produc disconfort \u0219i, foarte important, s\u0103 le exprim\u0103m \u00eentr-un mod s\u0103n\u0103tos \u2013 at\u00e2t pentru rela\u021bia cu sinele, c\u00e2t \u0219i pentru rela\u021biile cu ceilal\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Astfel, \u00een loc s\u0103 fugim de ceea ce sim\u021bim (furie, triste\u021be, team\u0103) \u0219i s\u0103 ajungem, de pild\u0103, s\u0103 ne implic\u0103m \u00een tot felul de conflicte exterioare, \u00een\u021belegem c\u0103 este mai s\u0103n\u0103tos s\u0103 ne gestion\u0103m emo\u021biile inconfortabile \u0219i s\u0103 le exprim\u0103m prin diferite metode: precum activitatea fizic\u0103, dans, a \u021bine un jurnal, a vorbi cu cineva, a participa la grupuri suport etc<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219area propriei vulnerabilit\u0103\u021bi nu doar c\u0103 ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 ne accept\u0103m, cu tot cu emo\u021biile<\/a> \u0219i tr\u0103irile inconfortabile, ci  st\u0103 la baza unor rela\u021bii autentice. C\u00e2nd ne asum\u0103m \u0219i ne exprim\u0103m vulnerabilitatea \u00een fa\u021ba celorlal\u021bi, ne cre\u0219tem \u0219ansele de a avea leg\u0103turi bazate pe autenticitate \u0219i intimitate emo\u021bional\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, e important ca vulnerabilitatea s\u0103 fie bidirec\u021bional\u0103. S\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim, \u00eens\u0103, c\u0103, asemenea nou\u0103, \u0219i ceilal\u021bi se tem de propria vulnerabilitate. Le este fric\u0103 s\u0103 se arate a\u0219a cum sunt de fapt, de team\u0103 de a nu fi judeca\u021bi, respin\u0219i, privi\u021bi \u00eentr-un mod \u201eciudat\u201d. \u00cen schimb, pot deveni mult mai deschi\u0219i \u00een a-\u0219i ar\u0103ta propria vulnerabilitate c\u00e2nd noi am f\u0103cut acela\u0219i lucru. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103 accept\u0103m vulnerabilitatea ca parte fireasc\u0103 a vie\u021bii, ca parte fireasc\u0103 din noi<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dup\u0103 cum am spus, \u00eencep\u00e2nd cu schimbarea ideii conform c\u0103reia vulnerabilitatea \u00eenseamn\u0103 sl\u0103biciune. Vulnerabilitatea \u00eenseamn\u0103, de fapt, autenticitate \u0219i curaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi, asumarea propriei vulnerabilit\u0103\u021bi presupune exerci\u021biu constant, f\u0103cut \u00een mod con\u0219tient. \u0218i da, \u00eenseamn\u0103, mai ales la \u00eenceput, disconfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva moduri prin care putem \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba s\u0103 ne accept\u0103m \u0219i chiar \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219\u0103m vulnerabilitatea:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Conectarea real\u0103 la emo\u021biile inconfortabile<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu le numim \u201enegative\u201d, pentru c\u0103, a\u0219a cum am povestit \u00een articolul dedicat emo\u021biilor de baz\u0103, acestea sunt pur \u0219i simplu emo\u021bii. Clasificarea lor \u00een \u201epozitive\u201d \u0219i \u201enegative\u201d ne poate determina s\u0103 fugim de cele \u00eencadrate \u00een cea de-a doua categorie \u2013 emo\u021bii care sunt, de fapt, absolut fire\u0219ti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 ne d\u0103m voie, a\u0219adar, s\u0103 tr\u0103im \u0219i teama, \u0219i furia, \u0219i neputin\u021ba, \u0219i triste\u021bea. S\u0103 le normaliz\u0103m. S\u0103 le recunoa\u0219tem \u00een fa\u021ba noastr\u0103, s\u0103 st\u0103m cu ele. S\u0103 le exprim\u0103m prin scris, printr-o activitate creativ\u0103 sau prin mi\u0219care \u2013 adic\u0103 s\u0103 le eliber\u0103m \u00eentr-un mod s\u0103n\u0103tos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deschiderea emo\u021bional\u0103 c\u0103tre ceilal\u021bi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At\u00e2t rela\u021biile de cuplu s\u0103n\u0103toase, c\u00e2t \u0219i rela\u021biile de prietenie autentice depind de conexiunea emo\u021bional\u0103 \u2013 conexiune care \u00eenseamn\u0103 inclusiv exprimarea lucrurilor care ne dor, povestirea e\u0219ecurilor prin care am trecut. Doar a\u0219a, ceilal\u021bi ne vor putea cunoa\u0219te cu adev\u0103rat \u0219i, totodat\u0103, vor fi, la r\u00e2ndul lor, mai deschi\u0219i emo\u021bional cu noi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, este inconfortabil, uneori chiar dureros, s\u0103 vorbim despre emo\u021biile noastre, despre traume, despre experien\u021bele prin care am trecut, la un moment dat, \u0219i pe care nu am reu\u0219it \u00eenc\u0103 s\u0103 le dep\u0103\u0219im. La fel cum ni se poate p\u0103rea ciudat s\u0103 ne ar\u0103t\u0103m, \u00een via\u021ba de adul\u021bi, latura copil\u0103roas\u0103, aceea care r\u00e2de cu gura p\u00e2n\u0103 la urechi, c\u0103reia \u00eei place s\u0103 se joace sau s\u0103 glumeasc\u0103. \u00cens\u0103 doar a\u0219a vom putea avea rela\u021bii bazate pe intimitate emo\u021bional\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gestionarea nevoii de perfec\u021biune<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perfec\u021bionismul este o form\u0103 prin care fugim de \u00eent\u00e2lnirea cu sinele, adic\u0103 \u0219i de conectarea la propriile emo\u021bii. Pe termen lung, acesta are consecin\u021be negative asupra s\u0103n\u0103t\u0103\u021bii emo\u021bionale \u2013 tocmai de aceea, este important s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m s\u0103-l gestion\u0103m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu vom reu\u0219i s\u0103 integr\u0103m (\u0219i aplic\u0103m) peste noapte ideea conform c\u0103reia este \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 facem lucrurile \u201esuficient de bine\u201d. Gestionarea perfec\u021bionismului este o c\u0103l\u0103torie de durat\u0103, care presupune efort con\u0219tient \u00een fiecare zi. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ce este vulnerabilitatea? Este emo\u021bia tr\u0103it\u0103 \u00een momente de incertitudine, de risc \u0219i expunere emo\u021bional\u0103. Nu exist\u0103 curaj f\u0103r\u0103 vulnerabilitate. S\u0103 te oferi pe tav\u0103, s\u0103 fii v\u0103zut, s\u0103-\u021bi deschizi sufletul \u00een fa\u021ba cuiva, fie c\u0103 prime\u0219ti, fie c\u0103 nu Read More …<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-159","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/159","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=159"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/159\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":160,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/159\/revisions\/160"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=159"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=159"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=159"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}