{"id":130,"date":"2022-12-09T14:06:54","date_gmt":"2022-12-09T12:06:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/?p=130"},"modified":"2022-12-09T14:06:55","modified_gmt":"2022-12-09T12:06:55","slug":"dictionarul-emotiilor-autocompatimirea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/2022\/12\/09\/dictionarul-emotiilor-autocompatimirea\/","title":{"rendered":"DIC\u021aIONARUL EMO\u021aIILOR. Autocomp\u0103timirea"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong> <\/strong>Autocomp\u0103timirea este o strategie de a gestiona frustr\u0103rile pe care le acumul\u0103m, strategie pe care o \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m \u00eenc\u0103 de mici, atunci c\u00e2nd suntem dezam\u0103gi\u021bi. Este, dac\u0103 vre\u021bi, una dintre versiunile foarte vechi de \u00een\u021belegere \u0219i gestionare a realit\u0103\u021bii de c\u0103tre psihicul nostru, la care regres\u0103m atunci c\u00e2nd suntem sub stres puternic, cu care nu am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 lucr\u0103m \u00een alt fel. C\u00e2nd suntem \u00een autocomp\u0103timire, asemeni unui copil foarte mic, ne percepem ca pe o persoan\u0103 c\u0103reia i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 lucruri incorecte, f\u0103r\u0103 ca noi s\u0103 ne observ\u0103m resursele, capacit\u0103\u021bile \u0219i impactul pe care \u00eel putem avea ca adul\u021bi \u00een mediu. Ca urmare, afla\u021bi \u00een autocomp\u0103timire ne a\u0219tept\u0103m ca deciziile \u0219i circumstan\u021bele noastre de via\u021b\u0103 s\u0103 fie controlate de c\u0103tre un altul, sau de c\u0103tre al\u021bii, propria persoan\u0103 perceput\u0103 ca fiind \u00een cea mai mare m\u0103sur\u0103 dependent\u0103 de voin\u021ba altora. C\u00e2nd ne dorim sau avem nevoie de unele schimb\u0103ri \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103 \u0219i nu ni le putem oferi, adeseori sim\u021bim furie, durere, neputin\u021b\u0103. Acest \u00eentreg mix de emo\u021bii este adeseori dificil de con\u021binut, a\u0219a \u00eenc\u00e2t este natural s\u0103 ne dorim s\u0103 fugim din contactul cu realitatea sim\u021birii noastre, g\u0103sind sensuri sau explica\u021bii mai u\u0219or de tolerat. \u00cen astfel de situa\u021bii alegem practic s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2nem \u00eentr-o realitate alternativ\u0103, creat\u0103, care afirm\u0103 c\u0103, \u00een fapt, noi suntem puternici, \u00eens\u0103 mici \u0219i dependen\u021bi \u00een compara\u021bie cu contextul, cu ceilal\u021bi sau cu voia destinului care ne-a f\u0103cut s\u0103 fim neajutora\u021bi, neputincio\u0219i. Reversul este c\u0103, dac\u0103 cei din jur \u00eemi fac r\u0103u sau nu m\u0103 ajut\u0103, ori soarta nu \u00eemi este prielnic\u0103, oric\u00e2t a\u0219 fi eu de puternic, tot nu pot face nimic \u0219i nu pot schimba nimic, pentru c\u0103 destinul nu vrea asta. Este necesar\u0103 munca de con\u0219tientizare privind efectele negative ale autocomp\u0103timirii, pentru c\u0103 recurgem la ea \u00een mod spontan, pe pilot automat. Uneori nici nu ne d\u0103m seama. Recurgem al autocomp\u0103timire din glum\u0103 sau din convingere, dar ambele sunt nocive. Din glum\u0103 ne auto comp\u0103timim, crez\u00e2nd c\u0103 facem \u201ehaz de necaz\u201d. Dar subcon\u0219tientul nostru nu \u0219tie de glum\u0103. Pentru el, orice mesaj primit sub form\u0103 de g\u00e2nd sau cuv\u00e2nt rostit este real \u0219i \u00eel transform\u0103 \u00een realitate. Autocomp\u0103timirea este d\u0103un\u0103toare: de fiecare dat\u0103 autocomp\u0103timirea te plaseaz\u0103 \u00een pozi\u021bia de victim\u0103. Te consideri victima familiei, a societ\u0103\u021bii, a colectivului \u00een care munce\u0219ti etc. \u201eSunt b\u0103tut de soart\u0103\u201d sau \u201e m-a pedepsit Dumnezeu\u201d sunt expresii ce exprim\u0103 convingeri pe care \u021bi le \u00eensu\u0219e\u0219ti pentru a nu-\u021bi asuma responsabilitatea experien\u021belor perdante. D\u00e2nd crezare acestor credin\u021be\u00a0 gre\u0219ite din con\u0219tiin\u021ba colectiv\u0103, te pozi\u021bionezi \u00een postura de victim\u0103 \u0219i refuzi s\u0103 cau\u021bi alte resurse sau explica\u021bii.\u00a0 Autocomp\u0103timirea apare atunci c\u00e2nd nu suntem recunosc\u0103tori, c\u00e2nd nu apreciem darurile primite \u0219i succesul ob\u021binut \u00een via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201eNu se cuvine ca dup\u0103 ce ai avut parte de o binefacere, s\u0103 nu-\u021bi ar\u0103\u021bi recuno\u0219tin\u021ba.\u201d \u2013&nbsp;Seneca<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Autocomp\u0103timirea&nbsp; \u0219i pozi\u021bionarea \u00een rolul de victim\u0103 apare atunci c\u00e2nd te concentrezi pe ceea ce-\u021bi lipse\u0219te. A fi focalizat pe \u201elips\u0103\u201d te \u00eempiedic\u0103 s\u0103 te bucuri de ce ai, nu mai acorzi aten\u021bie la ce este bun \u0219i minunat \u00een tine, \u00eencepi s\u0103 cau\u021bi aten\u021bie \u00een jurul t\u0103u. Un astfel de comportament atrage dup\u0103 sine \u0219i mai mult\u0103 dezam\u0103gire, pentru c\u0103 evenimentele nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 a\u0219a cum vrei tu. A\u0219tept\u0103rile pe care le ai, planurile nerealiste pe care \u021bi le faci \u0219i care au la baz\u0103 ajutorul altora, te duc spre dezam\u0103giri din ce \u00een ce mai mari, spre ranchiun\u0103 \u0219i spre atitudinea \u201enimeni nu m\u0103 ajut\u0103!\u201d. C\u00e2nd plasezi responsabilitatea \u00een exterior, c\u00e2nd realizarea ta, succesul t\u0103u, via\u021ba ta depind de altcineva care nu poate fi controlat, orice eveniment neprev\u0103zut te afecteaz\u0103. Ai impresia c\u0103 e\u0219ti omis, c\u0103 celorlal\u021bi nu le pas\u0103 de tine, c\u0103 nu contezi, c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti luat \u00een seam\u0103 \u0219i \u00eencepi s\u0103-\u021bi pl\u00e2ngi de mil\u0103, concluzion\u00e2nd c\u0103 e\u0219ti o victim\u0103. Nu mai vezi solu\u021bii, nu mai g\u0103se\u0219ti oportunit\u0103\u021bi \u00een nimic \u0219i refuzi s\u0103 crezi c\u0103 te po\u021bi ajuta \u0219i singur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Autocomp\u0103timirea dispare c\u00e2nd g\u0103se\u0219ti puterea s\u0103 crezi \u00een&nbsp; tine, c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti convins c\u0103 nimeni \u00een locul t\u0103u nu poate ce ai tu de f\u0103cut. Scapi de autocomp\u0103timire c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi recuno\u0219ti emo\u021biile fa\u021b\u0103 de ceilal\u021bi \u0219i \u021bi le schimbi iert\u00e2ndu-i. Con\u0219tientizarea \u0219i recunoa\u0219terea emo\u021biei pe care o sim\u021bi fa\u021b\u0103 de cei care te-au jignit, te-au f\u0103cut s\u0103 suferi, te-au respins te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 te vindeci, te elibereaz\u0103, te ridic\u0103 din postura de victim\u0103 \u00een cea de creator. \u00ce\u021bi red\u0103 credin\u021ba c\u0103 po\u021bi s\u0103 ob\u021bii tot ceea ce dore\u0219ti \u00een via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Autocomp\u0103timirea este o strategie de a gestiona frustr\u0103rile pe care le acumul\u0103m, strategie pe care o \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m \u00eenc\u0103 de mici, atunci c\u00e2nd suntem dezam\u0103gi\u021bi. Este, dac\u0103 vre\u021bi, una dintre versiunile foarte vechi de \u00een\u021belegere \u0219i gestionare a realit\u0103\u021bii de c\u0103tre <a href=\"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/2022\/12\/09\/dictionarul-emotiilor-autocompatimirea\/\" class=\"read-more\">Read More &#8230;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-130","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/130","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=130"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/130\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":131,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/130\/revisions\/131"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=130"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=130"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/seliproject.eu\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=130"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}